5 LOVE LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MY GROOVE RING
Love is in the air...
Well, Valentines Day approaches once again. For some, it is a celebration of the love they share with that special someone in their lives. For others, it may be just another Tuesday though perhaps a bit lonelier. Either way, the annual, keep-your-florist-afloat-day lends itself to thoughts of love past, present, and future.
Here at GrooveLife, we are no exception to the rule. The fact is that at last check nearly 70% of Groove Rings purchased were destined to be worn as a symbol of commitment to a loved one as a wedding band and untold numbers of additional rings are holding snug around fingers as a token of commitment or in memoriam.
No matter the age of your current relationship, be it with a few decades tucked under the marriage belt or just starting together, it is hard not to think about commitment and love this time of year (even for the perpetual singles) so I say..don't fight it! Embrace your current state of partnership by reflecting on what it means (or will mean) to be in a healthy, quality relationship.
Better yet, keep reading to discover...
5 lessons Groove Rings Can Teach You About Love.
So this is really what it is all about, right? You've heard it said a thousand different ways.
"Would you rather be right... or be happy?"
"The tree that doesn't bend in the wind is bound to break from it"
The main idea is the same regardless of how you put it. If you are not willing to give as much as you take you are looking at some pretty difficult times ahead in finding a happy relationship to participate in.
The Silicone Groove Rings are engineered and produced with one, all important, innovative solution to fight back against injuries and avulsions of the hand. Amazingly it is the same attribute that can also save from unnecessary heartbreak if used correctly.
I'm referring to flexibility. Yep. That's it.
The simple ability to bend or "let it go," is a critical skill to have when critical when presented with a situation where even inaction can lead spell doom.
Being able to let go of an argument that isn't useful or productive is a life skill you should learn sooner rather than later
Look for the right fit
Just like your Groove Ring, your relationship should fit snuggly. Too loose the risk of running into some slippage is all too real! Too tight and you get to the point where the circulation is obstructed and you can't function the way you were built to.
In rings and relationships, you are looking for a close fit that is comfortable and allows you a fair sense of security (at a minimum that nothing is falling off randomly. Just as important is the need for good circulation, making sure that you don't damage what you love simply out of fear of losing it. If you need to hurt yourself to keep it from falling off then you may want to rethink why you even want the thing... (or perhaps it just wasn't the right fit) ...and that's ok, too!
That's why they make different sizes, shapes, colors... because you never know what the fit is until you try one on.
Know Your Limits
This is a good one. It is commonplace to hear about relationship issues stemming from a"failure to commit" or one-half of a duo not wanting to be "tied down," but what about the opposite.? What happens when we are more committed to the follow through or remaining true to our word than we are to the other person themselves?
Well, we may not see that happing as often out in the open because that is a struggle waged behind closed doors and inside hearts that can't help but see anything less than fairytale success as a failure.
Strong, caring partners who fear the "failure" word so much that they forget to consider that love is not a race or a game to be won. There are no winners or losers at the end of the day, simply participants. We all get our hearts bruised, and we all feel them elated in turn.
The final measure of success in my book is not in blindly pushing on just to satisfy ego, but in how we honor both, ourselves as well as those we love along the way. We do this by providing our honesty, and our willingness to act on what is right, rather than what is simply easy or self-edifying. That means being secure enough be the "bad guy" on occasion because the right decisions almost always have a sting for someone involved.
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.
...and perhaps he is right, but it was never about "ownership" was it? ( It shouldn't be.) If you find yourself requiring constant reassurance, looking for validation outside of yourself and your own awareness of your self-worth, or if you feel like you need another person (any person) in order for your to feel whole; then you may need to take a step back to a self-check up and think on this last lesson that Groove Rings have to share (today.)
You are enough all by yourself.
(Once you understand that, you are ready for the set!)
If you are not 100% just being you... then how much do your really have to offer someone else, yet?
Now, I know in my heart that everyone out there reading this has value and something to share, but I believe the entire "you complete me" belief has set up many would be love-birds out there with an inaccurate sense of what they should be hoping to gain out this whole" Love" exercise in the first place.
I believe that when your know your worth and you see yourself as 100%, it is but a matter of time before you find that special someone who just so happens to like your smile, goofy toes, and love for bad cinema AND see themselves as a whole person as well... and when you get 2 people that "zingggg" and know their own worth... you get ...
Two PARTNERS in every sense of the word that not only believe in themselves but get to experience the awesomeness that is created when 2 whole people are ready to share and take on the world.
Love is real and present and with us every day. Cupid has his bow out and you never know... you may be the next target.
My advice? ( oh don't stop me now I'm on a roll .. too late, here I go!)
Love is in the air and it is out there waiting for you. Make sure you are ready to honor and receive it should you find your time to shine has come. The first step is in recognizing your own inner awesomeness and liking you for you. That way when it is your turn (if not already) you can rest assured that you will have a 100% you to share in a genuine, healthy relationship.
That really is what it is all about isn't it?. ...to find someone we can share with and that wants to share with us. That's the heart of it. To love and be loved in return.
Happy Valentines Day
A lifetime commitment
Now, Remember, the only way to mend a broken heart is with healthy portions of time, reflection, self-acceptance (and I'm told ice cream helps as well), but if you lost your heart AND your Groove Ring in the pursuit of your happily ever after, well... We've Got you Covered!
Hey! I like stuff. Lots of it.
All kinds of various topics, subjects, distractions. I love reading and writing about self-improvement or actualization, technology, books, and cinema (yes I wrote the word cinema).
I love my children, my work, and the breath in my lungs,
Today I even have a fondness for being run ragged as I try to build something out of nothing so it can hopefully be at least one thing... and if you just read that, and if it brought some small amount of value?... well that's everything isn't it.
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